Now before even I start, this is not to offend anyone, it’s more for awareness and behavioural change.
We all want the best for our riders, kids, friends, you name it.
So often I see some behaviours on tracks that makes me cringe.
Stop comparing your child with somebody else’s child and most importantly don’t do it in front of your child.
Everybody is different and every one learns at different pace.
Einstein said once “If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live it’s whole life believing that it’s stupid.”
Not everybody fits at the same system.
We are not living in the industrial era anymore,traditional schools system does, but we are not.
Lot’s of parents are living their dreams through their children lives and although it’s nice to be supportive, it can end up being a very toxicrelationship.
Often parents believe that they know better what their children want than their kids themselves. They become their physician, their strength coach, they moto coach. They know better than anyone else and they’ve done it before anyone else.
If you can be an expert in all these fields, why do you even hire all these professionals?! Why do you ask an advice if you aren’t willing to listen anyway?
Have you ever asked your son/daughter what do they need? What do they want? Then stop for a minute and listen to them, let them speak and don’t reply straight back to them, but think what they said and analyse it?
I am not a parent, but once I was an athlete and I know how it feels when you feel that your opinion doesn’t matter as everybody else knows better than you – the athlete. The sport that I used to love most is what still gives me a bitter taste whenever I think about it.
You nurture humans, not machines. And if you want to nurture a machine, that’s fine but then you will have to live with the consequences no matter what they would be. Often relationships between parents and child are burnt and that’s because the child feels utterly burnout from the ongoing pressure on and off the track. Let them breath!
The once young athlete, will be an adult later. Personally I had to learn on my late 20s what are the “soft skills” are. That cost me lots of friendships, romantic relationships and even business.
Unnecessary pressure and bad communication often lead to performance anxiety, frustration and to extreme level- even depression. That’s a fact.
Not every day is the same day, sometimes they feel good and they can deliver more, sometimes not.
So if you aren’t already doing it, start now. Ask the right questions and actively listen, then decide together as a team. YOU ARE A TEAM. Not a boss and an employee.
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